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Intimacy Is Sharing Hurt Feelings: A Comparison of Three Conflict Resolution Models
Author(s) -
III Joseph Frey,
Holley Judy,
L'Abate Luciano
Publication year - 1979
Publication title -
journal of marital and family therapy
Language(s) - English
Resource type - Journals
SCImago Journal Rank - 0.868
H-Index - 68
eISSN - 1752-0606
pISSN - 0194-472X
DOI - 10.1111/j.1752-0606.1979.tb01265.x
Subject(s) - feeling , anger , psychology , social psychology , conflict resolution , sociology , social science
To check on the validity of three different methods of dealing with anger, 1) calm, rational discussion, 2) “fair fighting,” and 3) sharing of hurt and of fear of hurt, two different studies were performed. In the first study a video‐taped procedure was presented to 36 undergraduates. Their preferences indicated no support for the hypothesis of sex differences in dealing with conflict and some support to differential preferences for each of three methods. In the second study, three structured programs directly derived from the three theoretical positions were administered at random to 11 couples. Their reactions suggested some support for the position that intimacy may be found in sharing of hurt feelings. Theoretical issues and directions for future research are considered.