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Intimacy Is Sharing Hurt Feelings: A Reply to David Mace
Author(s) -
L'Abate Luciano
Publication year - 1977
Publication title -
journal of marital and family therapy
Language(s) - English
Resource type - Journals
SCImago Journal Rank - 0.868
H-Index - 68
eISSN - 1752-0606
pISSN - 0194-472X
DOI - 10.1111/j.1752-0606.1977.tb00450.x
Subject(s) - feeling , anger , mace , social psychology , psychology , psychoanalysis , psychiatry , myocardial infarction , conventional pci
Mace's arguments concerning the love‐anger cycle in marriage are criticized on philosophical (theoretical) and technical (clinical) grounds. Underneath the smoke‐screen of anger there is the fire of hurt feelings. Dealingwith these feelings decreases the expression of anger and helps the couple reach “real” intimacy: the sharing of hurt feelings. Victories we can sharewith anybody. Anybody is willing to share victories with us. Hurt feelings, on the other hand, belong within the marriage.