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Dancing in the Dark II. Helping and Not‐So‐Helping Hands
Author(s) -
Blachman Linda
Publication year - 1981
Publication title -
birth
Language(s) - English
Resource type - Journals
SCImago Journal Rank - 1.233
H-Index - 83
eISSN - 1523-536X
pISSN - 0730-7659
DOI - 10.1111/j.1523-536x.1981.tb01592.x
Subject(s) - acknowledgement , ambivalence , helping behavior , psychology , breastfeeding , social psychology , natural (archaeology) , helping hand , advice (programming) , developmental psychology , medicine , computer science , pediatrics , history , chemistry , programming language , computer security , archaeology
Mothers having difficulty with breastfeeding often find a lack of acknowledgement of the normal ambivalence about many aspects of the early mothering experience. Mothers, who need themselves to be nurtured, instead find people anxious to give advice which is biased by their own experience or dogmas. The “helpers” too easily conclude that what worked for them, or what seems “natural,” is correct for mothers in general. They are quick to make negative judgments about women who do not follow the idealized model.