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The Grip of the Ideal
Author(s) -
Hoggett Paul
Publication year - 2020
Publication title -
british journal of psychotherapy
Language(s) - English
Resource type - Journals
SCImago Journal Rank - 0.442
H-Index - 17
eISSN - 1752-0118
pISSN - 0265-9883
DOI - 10.1111/bjp.12546
Subject(s) - shame , ideal (ethics) , nothing , psychology , grievance , social psychology , perfection , epistemology , psychoanalysis , law , philosophy , political science
The ideal, an unrealizable state of perfection where reality does not apply, is a familiar phenomenon in the consulting room and in the wider society. Its grip is immensely powerful and it is connected to two significant negative emotions, shame and ressentiment (a particular form of grievance in which the grievance is nursed). This article examines whether these two different emotions arise from two different kinds of relation we take up to the ideal. Shame arising when we fail to be the ideal, ressentiment arising when we fail to have or possess the ideal. There are also good grounds for believing that each emotion is connected to a distinctive form of splitting, whilst shame seems to be governed by the law of all or nothing, ressentiment is governed by the law of right or wrong. Western civilization seems to be in thrall to the ideal, that is, to a place where there are no limitations to the possible and where time and loss do not apply. With the climate emergency deepening every month the question remains, when will we Moderns wake up to reality?